Would you tell your CLOSE friend (the outfit she bought looks bad on her (makes her look fat)?

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Would you tell your CLOSE friend (who did not ask your opinion that the outfit she bought looks bad on her (makes her look fat etc)?

This is one of the most controversial questions and I think I am stepping onto shaking grounds.  

But I still would like to think about it.

I looked through pictures of myself and what I was wearing and I wondered: why did nobody tell me that some of my outfits looked…..well, not flattering at all?

Did people just not notice it?

Or did they try to be polite and nice to me?  But if this is the case, then I continued looking ridiculous in my clothing, right?

In any event, the past is in the past and nothing can be changed. 

However, nowadays this is how I go about it. 

  1. If my friend is shopping for a new dress, suit, or whatever and she sends me pictures asking my opinion – I will tell her.   If I do not like the outfit, I will say it, and explain WHY  (being a stylist helps :)))).   Of course, I will say it in a very polite and the nicest way possible.  I will also tell her what to look for in an item, so it will complement my friend’s figure and appearance.  If my friend decides to follow my advice – up to her, if not – up to her as well.  She is beautiful anyways 🙂
  2. However, if I am at an event and my friend walks in that ridiculous outfit: I will say nothing.    Because the only thing that I will accomplish in this very moment is to ruin my friend’s mood, make her feel bad and self-conscious.   Nothing can be done about this outfit at this very moment so what’s the point.
  3. But I will bring it up later.  Because I do not want my friend to wear this outfit to another event or buy something similar again.   Of course, it is my opinion only.   And I will explain why I think that outfit does not look good on her (by explaining styling tools etc).   If my friend decides to follow my advice – up to her, if not – up to her as well.  She is beautiful anyways 🙂

Am I afraid that by providing constructive criticism in the nicest and politest possible way I will lose my friend?

Not at all.   Fortunately, I am surrounded by close friends who know me well and know that I mean well.  My friends  prefer honesty and they give me the same.  And for that I am truly grateful.

So, would you tell your close friend that she does not look good in her new dress?

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